Maybe you can help us figure out the best way to get others to overcome their shyness. Most visitors don't have the resume or knowledge of people like Dan Hoffman, Chris Gates, Ed Shoudis et al. That's why they have columns. The boards are for everybody. So if most visitors to the forums have less ability, then the simple questions will actually add more value to the community and it's members than articles on how to hack into SQL Servers and crack passwords with rainbow tables. The basics are great for all.
As for your feelings on the focus of the site, I have to disagree. The site name is Ethical Hacker. Most articles that may show how to break into something, also show how to prevent it. We cater to the security professional and the overall IT professional community at large. We're here to help you, not the script kiddies. We have no desire to be an underground hacking site. This is why we setup the site in magazine format with columns, features, calendar of events, etc. As mentioned in other posts, no one has ever been flamed for asking a newbie question. On the other hand, people asking blatantly how to attack someone for malicious intent are flamed off the board.
So, in short, I think all of your preventive content would be a perfect match.
I feel your pain as well. I went from being a partner in a software company in the tech boom of the 90s to being unemployed. This was also immediately after 9-11, so no one was hiring. To make ends meet, I did manual labor jobs with immigrant workers in the middle of the night, until I could get whatever tech job I could find. I finally got a temporary job making less than $30,000 per year. After much hard work like you're doing right now, I not only make a pretty decent living, but I also feel like I have a career not just a job. With an attitude like yours, you'll be fine. It may just be hard to see it right now.
As for members taking more from the forums than they give, I would argue that by not posting at all, they are taking more than giving. By posting a newbie question, as mentioned above, this gives back. So even if newbies are not teaching you how to do a pen test that includes firewalking doesn't mean that it is not helping the community. It's just helping in another way.
I hope that makes sense.
Basically, having high level and low level questions sparks conversation with all members. This is what makes this community worth visiting time and time again.
CISSP, MCSE, CSTA, Security+ SME