Im Brand new. what should i learn first to become an ethical hacker?
i do alot about general computers, no languages. nothing about networks.
what should i learn?

I think the biggest thing is to simply be curious.  If you are not curious this is not the field for you.  First be a generalist...then find something you really enjoy and dig...and dig...and dig.

Dig dig dig....


Speaking of networking.. I can't believe I brainfarted and assumed my broadband carrier would hook me up with a router.    Just had to do an emergency purchase of a router for my home network.  Man... it's badass though, the network that is.   All gigabit...... mmmm... love gigabit LAN gaming.  I know that's a bit off topic, so I'll toss in the usual response.

Read.

Learn:
Networking, know your tcp/ip and other protocols, understand the concept of ports and how they inter-relate to programs on a networked environment.

Linux, it's the b0mb. 

C, C+, and fun stuff.  Hello world!

Related to networking, learn wireless.  It's becoming a more and more prevalent thing... fun to dork around with too.

Learn your tools, don't get into trouble though.  IE, don't put nessus/metasploit on your work computer... or you'll soon be un-employed.  Don't run it against random networks you find, you'll find yourself in jail getting aquainted with burritos.